Basic self care—regular schedule of meals and sleep.
Look out for signs of substance abuse.
Let them know it’s okay to let it out.
Help them relax.
Tell them you love them.
Remind them it’s okay to ask for help.
SOURCE: mhanational.org
Help to foster resiliency rather than try to avoid stress and/or “negative emotions.” Remind your child that it is normal and healthy to experience a range of emotions, then shift the focus to how to respond in the face of adversity.
Ask questions and listen for the answers. Teens are often able to problem solve when they feel heard. Encouraging them to problem solve vs. fixing it for them promotes lifelong skills and fosters emotional well-being.
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The American Psychological Association has a great short piece on resiliency (https://www.apa.org/topics/resilience) it highlights several things that promote strengthening resiliency such as connection, self care and helpful thinking. Perhaps you and your teen can read it together.
www.cap4kids.org has lots of great links for mental health resources.
Anxiety or worry can be a healthy emotional response to performance and new situations. It is considered problematic when it becomes chronic (more often than not) and impacts functioning (social life, academic performance, home life).
Signs of Anxiety:
Finding it difficult to control worry
Difficulty concentrating
Muscle tension
Changes in sleep, especially the ability to fall asleep
Changes in appetite
Fatigue
Irritability
Avoiding everyday activities like seeing friends or going to school
Things you can do at home are talk to your child about their anxiety, focus on what they can do to address the anxiety (vs. avoid). Anxiety often can be managed by problem-solving or approaching the situation.
In the case of performance-based anxiety: reviewing what they have already done to prepare for the anxiety producing situation can help. This also can lead to them identifying what else they might do to prepare. Remind your child that anxiety is often a helpful cue to make and have a game plan.
If your child’s anxiety is chronic and or severe and is impacting their daily life please consider contacting a professional.
Feeling down or having low mood at times, especially in the face of loss or challenging times can be a normal healthy response. It is when these feelings, coupled with additional symptoms, last for a few weeks or more and are present more of the time than not that it could be a sign of Depression.
For some teens irritable mood can be a sign, especially if it is different from typical. Look out for changes in behavior and mood.
Changes in sleep patterns, such as sleeping more than usual or having early morning insomnia
Changes in appetite (eating more or less than usual) that last during low mood
Unexpected weight change
Chronic headaches or stomach aches that are not explained by a physical condition
Feeling helpless or hopeless
No longer seeming interested in or enjoying activities they typically enjoy
Feeling of worthlessness or guilt
Thoughts of suicide or self-harm
If your teen has been depressed and suddenly seems joyful as if they have no problems or begins giving away personal items please talk to your teen about if they are having thoughts of killing themselves. Do not be afraid to ask directly. Asking does not increase risk.
Loneliness has been a growing problem in our society well before COVID-19 and social distancing. Loneliness is a state of mind and has very little to do with the presence or lack of presence of others. It has more to do with how we are feeling about ourselves. This is why we can feel lonely in a crowd or content by ourselves.
Getting connected and active are great ways to challenge loneliness.
Consider promoting kindness, ask you teen what acts of kindness they could extend to themselves.
Ask your teen to consider how they spend their alone time. Learning to be good at quality alone time is an important aspect of reducing loneliness. What do they enjoy about alone time? How can they keep this time pleasant and enjoyable?
The following websites might be helpful for parents seeking clarification on the teachings of the Church or the Catholic perspective on social issues. As things develop in a young person's life they may have questions that you may not have the "perfect" answer to share with them. Remember that we are all on a journey to a deeper understanding of God but in the meantime, these websites might offer some clarification.
For theological questions about larger more existential issues such as Creation, the Papacy, Mary, and Eucharist the following website might be useful: https://www.ewtn.com/catholicism/teachings
For more social issues that deal with more current events that students may hear on the news or in social media outlets, the following websites tend to have more current event(s)-related topics: https://bustedhalo.com/category/life-culture
While Google can provide a vast array of answers to your questions, those answers can also come from a vast array of individuals. One site that is dedicated to keeping faith at the forefront of their response is Catholic Answers. You can find an answer to practically any question that you or your child may have with a faith foundation. https://www.catholic.com/
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Hotline Number: 1-800-273-8255. For support in Spanish, please call: 1-800-628-9454.
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